Do you have tons of rules that you live by?
I dig some rules. They keep us sane and structured.
But there are other rules that don’t serve us.
Those usually start with phrases like…
1. Have to do this
2. Can’t do that
When you set rules like that you lock your awesome self into a box, kind of like a prison.
It creates a lot of limitations and can be really disheartening.
After a while, you can feel trapped as all hell in your own self imposed box. You don’t always know how you got trapped, you just know you want out.…
Do you ever wish you could be happy all the time? Do you get mad at yourself when you’re sad and try to make it stop?
That’s what I used to do whenever I got sad.
I would try anything and everything to make it go away so I could be happy again.
But when I did that somehow the sadness seemed to come back harder and stronger.
So I tried an experiment: I wanted to see what would happen if I just surrendered to the sadness and allowed myself to feel it.
And a miracle took place!
The sadness floated away so much more quickly than when I used to try to fight it.…
Do you ever feel like you suck?
I’ve heard lots of people tell me that if only they had that perfect job, or X amount of money, or a perfect butt they would like themselves and be happy.
And I get it. I used to think all that outside stuff was the answer to feeling awesome.
Until I started getting all that stuff, becoming “successful”, and having the body I always wanted.
And guess what? I still felt like I sucked.
That’s because feeling awesome has nothing to do with ANY of your external conditions.…
Just the mere sound of that word scares the shizzle out of me!
I must confess – I am an investing virgin.
I’ve been too freaked out (especially after the 2008 stock market crash) to invest my money. It feels much safer to put it in a savings account.
But I know my money is not working very hard for me if I stick everything in a savings account.
And I want to earn more on what I’ve already got. I want my money to wurrrrrk hard for me, rather than me working so hard for it.…
Do you compare yourself to other people?
And then you decide that you’re not as thin, or funny, or pretty, or successful, or clever as the peeps you compare yourself to?
I’ve done that many many times.
And I do think some comparison is healthy. Following in the footsteps of others can give us a model for how to get where we want to go. Sweet!
But in this post I’m talking about that OTHER kind of comparison. The kind that tells you you’re not good enough and just takes a big old dump on your dreams.…